lori gottlieb maybe you should talk to someone

Is there any type of relationship you explored that surprised you when you were writing the book? Maybe You Should Talk to Someone covers all types of relationships (parent relationships, romantic relationships, friendships, therapist-patient relationships). And that’s hopeful and liberating-because it’s something concrete that’s in this person’s power to change!

Once they can see themselves engaging in those behaviors, they start to see their role in their difficulties more clearly. Just as I like to help couples catch their partner doing something positive (and to tell their partner about it!), I like to help them catch themselves doing something that isn’t contributing to the kind of relationship they want. I also appreciate how easy it is to teach people about some common destructive behaviors, such as the Four Horsemen, in a way that they can readily understand. This tended to get short shrift before John and Julie really revolutionized the work in this way. There’s often so much love beneath everything else-and also so much more to discover about one another. It has taught me how to help couples find the positive points of connection that get buried underneath the distress or conflict. The Gottman Method has a very positive orientation. In other words, I’m scanning for strengths so that we can build on those. In my practice, I’m always looking for two things at the same time: what’s not working in these people’s lives, and also what is working. How have you been influenced personally and professionally by the Gottman Method? We had a chance to interview Lori about the book, her work doing couples therapy, and the impact therapy has on our relationships. In Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, readers join Lori on her intimate journey, and into her practice, for a deeply personal and revelatory tour of hearts and minds from both sides of the couch-to quite possibly life-changing effect.

She has appeared on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS This Morning, CNN, and NPR.Īccording to Lori, her most significant credential is not her license or rigorous training, but the fact that she’s “a card-carrying member of the human race.” She writes The Atlantic’s weekly Dear Therapist advice column, and also writes regularly for The New York Times. Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and author of The New York Times best seller, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.

Lori gottlieb maybe you should talk to someone